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Apr10

Interview: Daisy de Plume of THATLou (Part 2)

by Paris Weekender
Posted In: Must Do in Paris

Last week, I posted Part 1 of my interview with Daisy de Plume, the creator of amazing Treasure Hunts at the Louvre - and now beyond! She has recently launched THATd’Or (Treasure Hunt at the Musée d’Orsay) and New York’s THATMet will launch soon. In Part 1 of the interview, Daisy shared with us an update on these exciting developments, and this week in Part 2, we get into the personal stuff: Daisy’s relationship with the City of Lights and the museums she knows so well. For more information on Daisy’s events, as well as the most current updates, I also invite you to visit her site: THATLOU.com.

THATLou Part 2

What is it about Paris that keeps you here?

Well if you asked me that question 5 years ago the answer would be completely different, but all relationships change, those with cities the most memorably sometimes. There are two main reasons which keep me here at the moment: our son and my business.

Our toddler Storsh has made both my husband (who’s lived in Paris from his native Buenos Aires for ten years) and me see Paris and France altogether in a completely new light. I could see us wanting to have a little adventure of a few years somewhere else before school becomes too important, but I can’t think of anywhere better to raise a child than France. There’s a lot to complain about the French, but their systematic focus and encouragement of family and work-life balance is absolutely peerless (well ok, Sweden is perhaps better, but it’s cold up there and only light half the year).

And of course I can’t very well move the Louvre. It’s large, you know!

Which is your favorite painting or room at the Louvre?

There are entirely too many to even begin to touch on so since we’re in France I’ll answer what is your favorite French sculpture at the Louvre?

This would be Pigalle’s mischievous old sculpture of Voltaire, sitting on a rock in his birthday suit (privates tactfully covered with a scroll). His sinewy bod betrays his 70-odd years, with his runner’s build having just a bit of waddle hanging – no, dangling – from his forearm. His impish eyes have just the right amount of fatigue circled below them. Despite his age, you can still picture him jumping fast as a gazelle from a young maiden’s bed and into her closet, lest the noise downstairs be her father coming home. He was a prolific man – prolific of ideas, words, and women, and Pigalle captures all of this perfectly in this life-sized solid block of marble. I often wheedle him in to a treasure hunt if a piece of treasure is somewhere nearby, just so my hunters will get a glimpse of him and hopefully return for a proper visit.

 

THATLou Part 2-6And at the Musée d’Orsay?                              

As for the Musée d’Orsay, it’s a museum I’m really just discovering (and in the most rewarding way, building treasure hunts there). There are a few pieces which pop out, but among my favorite is certainly an 1890 Winslow Homer painting called Summer Night. Homer started his career as a graphic reporter during the American Civil War, before going on to paint scenes of army life and the rural world with the Naturalist precision, popular at the time. After a stint in Paris, Homer used an Impressionist palette for a while then developed a personal style midway between Realism and Symbolism. Summer Night expresses this synthesis and may be considered one of the first masterpieces of American art still in search of its identity. With the moonlight making its ghostlike appearance on the Atlantic horizon, and then dancing on the water’s edge more closely to the Maine shore, the painting is filled with both movement and music. The motion of the rougher waters in the foreground, a breeze made evident by one of the ladies’ skirts and of course the movement of the dancers themselves brings the quiet scene to life. Are those silhouettes watching the water or the dancers? I wonder every time, and always conclude that either view’d be just as pleasant as the other. It is a scene that is very much alive for me somehow.

THATLou Part 2-4

Do you have a favorite “off-the-beaten-track” museum in Paris?

Yes, I have several. The one closest to my office is the Jacquemart Andre (158, boulevard Haussmann 75008) which is Paris’s equivalent to NY’s Frick or London’s Wallace Collection, insofar as they were wealthy financiers with a solid collection of Titian, Botticelli, Van Dyck and Rubens, and even have a lovely Tiepolo fresco overlooking their plant-filled winter court. Makes you forget that Paris is grey to just have a visit there. Plus it has a grand tea room that you can go off and be posh at for an hour or two among ladies who lunch (before tredging back to your dismally gray office reality!)

As for a left-bank favorite the Fondation Henri Cartier-Bresson (2, Impasse Lebouis, 75014) is small but fantastic. It has his official archive, but also has exhibitions of both little-known and famous photographers along with the top floor being a permanent collection of Cartier-Bresson’s work. He defined Paris for me.

Where is your favorite place (park, restaurant, café, neighborhood) in Paris?

Favorite park: is the Louis XVI park in the 8th, off of Boulevard Haussmann and rue de Penthièvre. It has the most magnificent tree on the right bank, perfect for picnicking below (and unlike a lot of Parisian parks there’s plenty of grass to spread out on). Moreover I find the Royalist Chapelle Expiatoire (2 euro entry) a peaceful place to be as well as an amusing one (for Republican France). There’s a sculpture of Marie-Antoinette with one of her last letters from the Conciergerie chiseled into the marble below her.

(Current) Fave resto: PAN at 12, rue Martel 75010. It’s a mix of many styles, from East Berlin bare minimum to Danish modern furniture, gorgeous wood paneled floors to a wonderfully varnished ceiling that add a richer dimension. The food is delicious and the menu changes nearly daily. And the service somehow makes one feel coddled even though your very aware of the waiter’s superiority in a strange French twist. Reservations are advised (fashionistas cross town for it), but if you have time to kill for an aperitif before dinner there’s a darling low-keyed bar called Vino Loco (8, rue de Paradis, 75010 Paris) around the corner.

THATLou Part 2 of Part 2

Fave neighbourhood: is Faubourg St Denis (FSD) which is in the SW corner of the 10th Arrt.  (just across the Grand Boulevards from the 2nd Arrt’s Sentier, and neighboring the 9th Arrt).

FSD is a fully functioning colorful market street and a mini-UN of sorts, popular with Asians, Arabs, Africans and Bobos alike (Bobos being the Bohemian Bourgeois, over-educated French socialists who “feel for” underdeveloped countries, and like to claim poverty but wear 800-euro leather shoes and read Le Monde Diplomatique). The neighborhood’s filled with covered passages and has a shabby-chic nightlife scene with hotspots like Chez Jeannette (47, rue du Fbg St Denis 75010) and L’Inconnu (17-19, rue de Mazagran, 75010). Plus under the layers of other cultures, it’s actually quite rich in French history. The street is bookmarked by the Arch of St Denis, built in 1671-74 to commemorate the entrance to the city, stitching in Louis XIV’s 17th Century Paris.  The word Faubourg means “False Berg” or “Sham Town” pointing to the fact that any street which bears this Faubourg word was on the outside of the city walls at one point. There are two famous turn of the century Brasseries within a stone’s throw of one another – Julien (with divine art nouveau décor) and the Alsatian Brasserie Flo (with portly professional service and adorable gnome murals from 1903).

© Daisy de PlumeTHATLou Part 2-2
I’Inconnu and Passage

In just one sentence, why should someone sign up for a treasure hunt at the Louvre or the Musée d’Orsay with you?

Because you’ll leave feeling like you own the place!

What advice do you have for first-time visitors to Paris who want to see the best of the museums but without getting overwhelmed?

First and foremost: Come on one of my treasure hunts!!

But also, apparently the Paris Museum Pass is really worth it. Time and again I’ve been told my clients that its value lies in skipping the enormous lines that can eat up whole afternoons at any one of the many museums here.

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Once again, thank you so much for sharing all these insights and photos with us, Daisy!

 

 

└ Tags: Paris attractions, Paris guided tours, Paris museums, Personal stories
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Apr04

Interview: Daisy de Plume of THATLou

by Paris Weekender
Posted In: Must Do in Paris

Many of you may already be familiar with Daisy de Plume from my post about the Treasure Hunt at the Louvre I enjoyed over the summer. Daisy is the creator of these amazing scavenger hunts, a unique and exciting way to visit this classic museum. But she has also been up to a whole lot more recently, including the launch of THATd’Or (Treasure Hunt at the Musée d’Orsay) and even the coming-soon THATMet – yes, you guessed it. Treasure Hunt at New York’s Metropolitan Museum of Art! So I asked Daisy to share with us an update on these exciting developments, as well as some background on her innovative creations. For more information on Daisy’s events, as well as the most current updates, I also invite you to visit her site: THATLOU.com.

The following is Part I of my interview with Daisy. Part II will follow next week!

THATLou 2-2

Could you describe for us your company, THATLou, and the idea of the treasure hunts?

THATLou, which stands for Treasure Hunt At The Louvre, aims to make one’s visit to the grandfathers of museums fun, focused and refreshing.

As treasure hunts go, THATLou is quite simple: each team (consisting of 2 to 4 people) must photograph themselves in front of as many works of art on the list as possible, collecting varied points per photograph. The clue-manual provides 15 to 25 pieces of “Treasure” pertaining to a theme, with its photo, title, artist, date and country (which is how you locate it on the Louvre map… But attention: No GPS!). Bonus questions are embedded within the text— sometimes requiring silly poses (a prancing putti or debauched Dionysus, perhaps?), or sometimes they’re educational, referring to articles about the Louvre’s collection from the THATLou blog or from the information sheets within the museum.

I’ve designed 12 different hunts for the general public, one per month of the year. The market is fairly broad, ranging from families and tourists who are visiting Paris and order already-existing hunts to locals having birthday parties and hen / stag parties (the Love + Marriage hunt is popular for the latter, as is Debauchery + Gluttony).

The last category of treasure hunts is specially tailored hunts, which I design for the client – this ranges from corporate team-building events (for instance I did a Wheels + Motion treasure hunt for Piaggio, appropriate to the makers of the Vespa scooter) and at the moment I’m having a ball building an “Arts + Sciences” treasure hunt for a Paris-based NGO whose mission is to ignite underprivileged teenagers’ interest in science.

What about the newly launched THATd’Or?

We opened 2013 with our first THATd’Or (Treasure Hunt at the Musée d’Orsay) which was run in conjunction with the AFMO (American Friends of the Musée d’Orsay, a fundraising body that has done miracles for the restoration and viewing of impressionist art). It was a terrific success, and led us to collaborate again on a private hunt just last week. Our first theme was “Movement + Motion”, in honor of the building’s history. This more recent hunt’s theme was the “Female Form”, since our audience was an exclusive woman’s club of expats in Paris.

The Musée d’Orsay is another ball park altogether. The goal of THATd’Or is the same — to provide a fresh overview or perspective of the museum through a focused, fun thematic visit – but both the format and the hunt is different from THATLou. Ticking off basic differences: the Musée d’Orsay’s collection starts off where the Louvre leaves off, the d’Orsay is a 6th the size of the Louvre (which is 65,000 m², making it one of the largest geographic museums in the world), moreover the Musée d’Orsay doesn’t allow photography, other than in designated areas (which of course eliminates the very linchpin of THATLou). Another important distinction is that the Musée d’Orsay was formerly a train station, so it’s very easy to have a sweeping view of several bodies of work from a single juncture within in the museum.

Though my taste for painting and sculpture pre-dates the Musée d’Orsay (my heaven is the 17th century), so far as museums go there is no other museum I respect quite so much. And for a reason that runs quite to my own detriment, keeping me on my toes! Most museums, the Met and the Louvre included, are guilty of leaving so much of their treasures accumulating dust in storage. Moving paintings and sculptures is expensive – just think of the insurance – plus it makes plenty of work for the curatorial staff. This is one of the many places where the Musée d’Orsay sets itself apart. They are constantly rotating their collections – literally every two weeks they refresh it, ensuring that the public gets an honest, sweeping view of their full collection. It is a gift to the public that merits the tip of anyone’s hat.

But it also means that it doubles my work as a treasure hunt-creator. A hunt I built yesterday will only have a lifespan of 2 weeks, till an integral piece of the hunt may just be taken down. For that reason I’m probably going to develop THATd’Or to a high-end market of luxury travelers.

THATLou 2-3

Could you tell us a bit about your background?  How did you end up in Paris?

I grew up in NY’s West Village and went to Friends Seminary, a Quaker school on 16th Street. I spent a lot of time in Europe growing up, with family summers here and school years abroad without my family in Rome, Florence and London. After being graduated from university I took a 9 month trip around Asia by myself, but other than that I was through and through a New Yorker (sometimes with brief sojourns to Brooklyn, depending on boyfriends).  When it came time to get a job I rooted myself in the publishing world, first at a literary agency and then over to magazines at Condé Nast.

By the time I was nearly 30 I was finally freed of being executrix to a complicated estate and suit that had taken several years (my grandmother had died when I was 27). It was hands-down the most intense, unhappy yet somehow enriching (through pain, and just plain missing her, I suppose) period of my life, where all balance was lacking.

I had worked at Vanity Fair (as the culture list editor) for several years, which was a ‘career’ I was told by many not to forsake, but when I was given the physical freedom from my grandmother’s rent-controlled Christopher Street penthouse, I fled to Paris. Not for Paris, but as sheer escapism. Somehow this lovely city wrapped her arms around me and got me back to a new normal. Nourishing my new self in the old. I didn’t actually ‘move’ here, it’s just that I never went back.

How did you decide to start your own business?

Several factors went into it. I’ve been working at a corporate real estate consultancy for several years and it’s dumbfoundingly dull. Quite honestly being there makes me feel like my soul is being sapped from a molasses tree (dope? Maple tree? Whichever one is slower and more painfully plodding). On the other-hand I can’t very well quit (toddler, mortgage, etc) and in all honesty according to any French standard it’s quite a good job – only 15 minutes from home, the best status contractually, beautiful offices, lovely office-mates, etc. And security is supreme in France. Just change an hour for the workforce and they take to the streets.  The problem here is that unemployment is so high and job security so strong that it’s very scary to just up and quit (thus our very stagnant workforce). Just to give you a sense, I sent 250 resumes to get my current job in 2007 (pre-Lehman-Brothers-world-disaster-doomsday), so leaving without an alternative isn’t so smart. Yet, if I worked anywhere else, be it in the private sector or an OECD, UNESCO, int’l-sector job I think I’d probably be sailing the same straits. It had been years since I’d had a job which stimulated me, pulled on my Art History education and gave me a sense of ownership.

But another factor to starting it was having Storsh, my toddler, and the idea of being able to manipulate my schedule to fit his as he grows. Of course who knows whether all of this will work, but if I can replace my day job with THATLou I’ll be on cloud nine, because really, what could possibly be more fun than planning someone’s romp amongst the most beautiful treasures in the world?

Did you encounter any difficulties in starting your own business in France?

Yeah, little things like oh, the FRENCH STATE, social charges, reams of paper called “dossiers”, copyright law and of course the venally large taxes that come with any socialist country. The logistical side of the company has been exhausting and luckily I’m in very good hands (my clever Argentine husband, who understands the intricacies of French tax law to a tee, god bless him).

But as an American I really oughtn’t complain about the French state, though. I have full medical coverage without thinking of it as anything other than my “right” and my toddler gets 4-course meals each day at his crèche for pennies.

THATLou 2

What do you enjoy most about your work?

I really love creating the hunts — researching the pieces, considering their location at the Louvre and placing them apart (ha ha! You must strategise!), embedding the bonus questions craftily in the text. It all just makes me happy to think of the treasures people will see as they go looking for the treasure in the hunt. And for some reason my ideal participant isn’t necessarily interested in art beforehand, but is a competitive soul who wants to beat the other teams, so they do their homework, they read the blog posts that might apply to their hunt and they come away 1) winning and 2) actually wanting to go back to the museum to see the what they missed!

I feel like THATLou is one big con-game on trying to get people into feeling some sort of ownership of the Louvre. It’s a palace of 65,000 m², it has 35,000 works of art, Henri Loyrette (director of the Louvre) said you’d have to walk 8 straight miles to cover it all. Those statistics overwhelm people, and make their visit obligatory and a drag to check off. It tickles me pink to think that I might be able to get some people enthused to go and to have fun while they’re there.

As I was growing up my mother, who was an art historian, brought me to the Met for a few hours each Sunday afternoon. She created games with the paintings to keep my interest (and, I suppose, to give her some precious moments of quiet, I realize now that I’m a parent). We laugh about it now, because some of those games had monetary prizes (as I got older her games became sheer bribery for learning about what elements comprise the annunciation, for example). Who knows, perhaps she planted this entrepreneurial seed of having fun with art. But from her perspective and real aim – my education – her methods were clearly successful as I ended up with a degree in art history. If I can get just 30% of the people who play THATLou to want to go back to the museum then I’ll have accomplished my mission.

What are your goals for future projects for your business?

Well I’d like to arrange some partnerships with Parisian hotels and tourist industry captains, sending luxury travelers to Paris. At the moment I’ve been dealing with clients directly which has been a great pleasure, but I’d be interested to see how some professional agreements might develop the company to the next step. They say you can’t judge a company till it’s been in business for three years.

My goal by the 3-year mark is to expand across the channel and pond to develop THATBrit (British Museum) and THATMet (which I’ve already conducted among friends and will do another semi-public hunt in August 2013). But first things first, I would like THATLou and THATd’Or to steady themselves before hopping any bodies of water.

What advice do you have for first-time visitors to Paris who want to see the best of the museums but without getting overwhelmed? 

First and foremost: Come on one of my treasure hunts! 

But also, apparently the Paris Museum Pass is really worth it. Time and again I’ve been told my clients that its value lies in skipping the enormous lines that can eat up whole afternoons at any one of the many museums here.

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Daisy, I can’t thank you enough for sharing all this wonderful information with us! And thank you for sharing your lovely photos. I look forward to Part 2!!

 

└ Tags: Paris guided tours, Paris museums
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Mar28

Looking for a Summer Rental?

by Paris Weekender
Posted In: Getting Out of Paris, Must Do in Paris

Spring is finally here, in name if not weather, which means it’s time to start planning our summer vacations! Whether you are looking to vacation in the U.S. or France, city or countryside, I may have the perfect rental for you!

New York (West Village)

Newly renovated furnished studio on Christopher Street in the heart of the historic West Village available June 13 – August 7, 2013 or alternatively June 13 – July 13. The dates are somewhat flexible. All new furniture (including queen-size canopy bed) and kitchen appliances. Sleeps 2.

West Village

 Please e-mail parisweekender@gmail.com for more details!

Brittany (Baden, Morbihan)

Four-bedroom (sleeps up to 8) house available August 4 – September 4, 2013 (end date is flexible). This fully furnished home sits in the center of the small town of Baden, just a 10-minute drive from the TGV station at Auray and 1.5 kilometers from the coast. If you have been following my frequent posts on Brittany, you know that I have fallen in love with this corner of France. It’s the perfect place to escape for the month of August.

Baden

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Baden-3

Please e-mail parisweekender@gmail.com for more details!

Boothbay Harbor, Maine

My home on the coast of Maine sits on the water’s edge in the heart of the small fishing town of Boothbay Harbor, about 1 hour 15 minutes north of the Portland airport. 3 bedrooms, 2 full bathrooms, sleeps 6. There are still a couple of summer weeks available, and we rent (weekly) year round. It’s a wonderful getaway for mosquito-free September, October’s fall foliage or the winter months when you want to cuddle up by the fire and relax (knowing the closest lobster dinner is only a 5-minute walk away).

Deck, Back Bay Cottage

Visit my website for more details on the region and the property. E-mail me at bbcportside@gmail.com to inquire about availability!

Paris (The Marais)

If you were reading my blog during 2012, you are already well-acquainted with my renovation project. My 1-bedroom (sleeps 4) apartment in the Marais is now for rent.

Apartment December 2012 (2)-2

Please visit my site for more details on the apartment and the neighborhood, and e-mail apartments@adrianleeds.com to inquire about pricing and availability!

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Have I given you enough options for this summer?

 

└ Tags: Brittany, Maine, New England, New York, Paris hotels
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Mar20

The American Library in Paris & Writing Workshop this Weekend!

by Paris Weekender
Posted In: Must Do in Paris

The American Library in Paris is the largest English-language lending library in continental Europe. But this hub, situated in the 7th arrondissement at 10 rue du Général Camou, is more than just a book lending institution. The library hosts discussions with authors, book groups, kids and teen workshops and other events two to three times a week. It is truly a community center for the city’s anglophones (expats and French alike).

Galerie Vivienne
A collection of books at Galerie Vivienne

All evening events at the library are funded through private donations and are free and open to the public. I am of course drawn primarily to discussions involving travel or food writers and it’s rare a week goes by without one of these!

Founded in 1920, the American Library in Paris has welcomed notable patrons and members over the years, including Edith Wharton, Ernest Hemingway, Gertrude Stein, Thornton Wilder, Stephen Vincent Benét and Sylvia Beach. The library’s website includes a 1-page summary of the institution’s history that you can access here.

The library welcomes its members and visitors alike. See the library’s website for more information on how to become a member or to obtain a daily or weekly pass.

Among the many events for the upcoming weeks, one workshop caught by eye in particular. I am sure you remember our friend Sarah Towle from Beware Madame La Guillotine!, Time Traveler Tours’ award-winning iphone app? This Saturday, March 23rd, Sarah is teaching a writing workshop for kids in conjunction with the Young Authors’ Fiction Festival. I asked Sarah to tell us a bit about the festival and the workshop:

Young Authors’ Fiction Festival

Now in its 4th year, the Young Authors’ Fiction Festival aims to strengthen community among English speakers in the Paris area through the art and craft of storytelling. The Festival’s precursor, The Red Wheelbarrow Writing Contest, began in 2001 with one school, one bookstore, and a handful of Paris-based members of the Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators (SCBWI), who acted as judges. Over the years it grew to include the participation of more than a dozen schools and 350+ young writers. And it continues to grow each year. When the initiative outgrew the Red Wheelbarrow Bookstore and l’Ecole Massillon, its original home, it was reconceived as the Young Authors’ Fiction Festival and adopted by the American Library in Paris and Time Traveler Tours, publisher of educational StoryApps and Tablet Tales for youth. These two organizations co-coordinate the Festival to this day, with the help of SCBWI-affiliated judges from around the world. It is run on 100%-volunteer labor and has become an annual tradition in many Paris-area schools.

The Festival is open to youth, ages 5-18, who live in the greater Paris area and who write in English. It offers a wonderful opportunity for educators to encourage creative writing amongst their students. But many independent writers, who attend French-only schools, submit to the YAFF as well. For these students in particular, the Library seeks to provide an annual writers’ workshop with the goal of helping these participants prepare their stories for submission. Facilitated by Sarah Towle, Author and of Time Traveler Tours, the workshop, which will be held this weekend, provides writing tips, ranging from generating your story ideas, to revising, to critiquing, to the nuts and bolts of submitting to YAFF.

The YAFF submission deadline, as always, is April 1st. No foolin’! The Festival culminates at the American Library in Paris on 14 June with the Festival Celebration when the finalists in each grade are revealed. All participants are honored at the Celebration, however, and everyone is encouraged to attend.

To learn more about the Young Authors’ Fiction Festival, visit the Library website.

To sign up for Sarah’s workshop, click here. Space is limited!

If you can’t make Sarah’s workshops, but would like writing tips targeted to young author’s, check out Sarah’s free online workshop here.

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Below is a list of the “adult” library events for the coming two weeks:

Wednesday 20 March 19h30

Evenings with an Author: John Baxter seeks out delicious and endangered foods of France in The Perfect Meal.

Tuesday 26 March 19h30

Tracy Burns discusses OECD’s new publication, Trends Shaping Education 2013. Jude Smith of AAWE will moderate.

Tuesday 2 April 19h30

Evenings with an Author: Annik La Farge talks about On The High Line: Exploring America’s Most Original Urban Park.

Wednesday 3 April 20h00
Thursday 4 April 20h00

Word for Word performs You Know When the Men Are Gone by Siobhan Fallon at the Salle Adyar. Reservations required.

Saturday 6 April 10h00-19h00
Sunday 7 April 13h00-19h00

Used Book Sale at the Library on both days of the first weekend of the month.

Tuesday 9 April 19h30

Artist Jan Olsson will talk about the art of printmaking in conjunction with her Recontres: Words and Images exhibit.

Wednesday 10 April 19h30

Evenings with an Author: Pamela Druckerman will share insights on her latest Bébé Day by Day.

Tuesday 16 April 19h30

Jude Smith moderates an important discussion with parents and teachers on “Moving up to collège,” in cooperation with AAWE and Message.

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I strongly encourage you to sign up for the American Library in Paris’ bi-weekly e-newsletter, so you are sure not to miss out on the many happenings at the library!

 

└ Tags: Expat tips, Must reads
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Mar13

Ten Seconds of Courage…

by Paris Weekender
Posted In: Everything Else

This blog post, “Ten Seconds of Courage,” could also be aptly named “Be Nice to People You Meet in Airports – Part 2″. After reading my post from last month, Greg, my co-protagonist, insisted on writing his version of the story and informed me that I would be required to publish it. I told him he had a deal. Luckily, Greg (photographed below while hiking in Patagonia) and I both agree on the moral of the story. Thank you, Greg, for sharing this with us!

photo (11)After reading Abby’s post about being kind to people in airports (and being one of the subjects), I felt it was only natural to respond and say I relate with everything she said.  I also felt it was worth telling my version of events to complete the story.

It was summer of 1997. I was 19 years old.  A great-great-fill-in-the-blank relative of mine whom I never knew about or met passed away and somehow after her estate was distributed down the chain, my two brothers and I each inherited $1,500.  I was rich!  I had to do something immediately to spend this money.  To avoid any guilt of blowing it on certain things (i.e., alcohol), my older brother and I decided we would go to Europe. We had never travelled outside the US. He invited his girlfriend at the time so I suddenly became a fifth wheel.  No problem though, I thought, and I asked a girl I recently met in college if she wanted to come with us…. just as friends, of course.  I knew that she could fly for free because her father worked for an airline and that she didn’t even need to commit to a firm schedule.  She could come for all two weeks or just a few days.  Unfortunately, since we lived almost next door to each other, one night I saw her go out on a date holding a guy’s hand.  I had thought she was single, and even if we were going as friends, that would just be weird.  I never followed up with her about the Europe trip and decided to go alone.

I also decided that this would be the trip where I would come out of my shell.  I spent my first 18 years being an introverted observer, not a talker.  I would use the experience as an undercover social experiment and talk to anyone and everyone that would talk back.  I ditched my brother and his girlfriend and went to any place I could strike up conversations. It was liberating.  For every two or three people that gave me that “go-away” look, one talked to me.  I learned about places I should visit and those that I should avoid.  I ended up staying in hostels and would go around from group to group meeting interesting and occasionally crazy people from all over the world.  Plain and simple — I was a changed person.  I learned that there is a far greater risk in avoiding people than there is in talking to them. As long as it is situationally appropriate, of course.

Now to the part of the story that readers of Abby’s blog probably care about.  My brother, who was an ancient 23 years old at the time, was in charge of booking my flights.  He was staying in Europe for several months and my two weeks were up, so I was returning home alone.  My brother decided it was a fantastic idea to arrange my flight from Paris to Dallas at 7am on a Sunday morning.   Even then with less security you had to arrive two hours early to travel internationally.  The Paris metro didn’t run that early and my $1500 was gone.  A cab ride wasn’t an option so I was dropped off at Charles de Gaulle at about 8pm with a quick fist pump and the typical “have a safe flight.”  I carried my bag to a bench and laid down only to be interrupted by the (same) janitor who recommended I go to the 24-hour cafe to be safe.  OK, I thought.  Wasn’t going to argue with that.  To the best of my memory, I went and sat down near Abby about midnight.  There was no wi-fi, no iPad or computer, no entertainment.  If I read a book, I’d fall asleep then who know what would happen to my stuff.  I went over to Abby and asked to join her with what I thought was about an 80% chance of being turned away.  She said sure and we just started talking…and talking…and talking.  I can’t remember specifics, but I know we talked about her crazy travel schedule, our schools, friends, etc.  She was clearly smart and independent — but most importantly for our time together — friendly. I was impressed with her courage to be a female traveling alone.  The sun came up about 6am, we exchanged email addresses, which I had just begun using that year in college, and went on our way.   For me, the time flew by and I had a new friend.  All for 10 seconds of courage to strike up a conversation.

I kept in touch regularly with Abby for about four years or so.  She was always responsive and we shared what was going on in life and any travel experiences.  I was now working and spending every dollar on travelling all over the world.  Abby went to law school then moved abroad.  I moved to Seattle for a dot com whirlwind followed by law school in Miami.  But I’ve always been inspired by Abby’s independence and interest in travel and living abroad.  She also has a personality trait that I wish everyone shared, which is a warm friendly vibe…even to strangers.  I think that’s something you only get when you are a well-rounded, well-travelled and confident person.

Then social media was introduced into our lives…and I started connecting with people that I hadn’t talked to in a long time including Abby.  I learned she would be in New York in February.  On a twenty-four hour business trip out to New York, I had the (very, very last minute) thought of meeting up.  We hadn’t seen each other since Paris in 1997.  I didn’t arrive until about 8pm, so we met for a drink.  It was like time had stopped — a flashback back to 16 years ago.  I enjoyed every minute of it and came away reassured we’ll be lifelong friends.  Even if six months or a year goes by without talking — and I hope it doesn’t — we are always connected.  And I am very thankful for that.

As a side note, three years after this first trip to Europe, I randomly ran into that girl that I never followed up with to join me on the trip.  Being my new social self, I built up the courage to approach and invite her to have drinks with my friends and me.  We seemed to get along years earlier and were about to graduate college — probably never to cross paths again.  She agreed and we had a great time.  While we were out, she told me she was disappointed that I never followed up with her to join me on my European vacation.  I responded that she had a boyfriend (now single) and I didn’t want to get in the way of that.  I got an unexpected response — if you had asked me, I would have dumped him and joined you… We started dating the next week (August 2000), got married (May 2006), and welcomed our children into the world in 2010 and 2012.  We are insanely happy and are enjoying every bit of life.

Today, at 35, it still takes a good amount of courage for me to strike up a conversation.  Sit next to a stranger.  Meet new friends.  But so many great things have happened to me over the years for doing so; I recommend everyone talk to (friendly) strangers.  You never know whom you will meet….

 

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